so there was no abuse when you were filling and also in the process of getting your green card. but it started all of the sudden when you got your green card?

haha @irish chill shit happens. just wait when you are about to remove conditions get divorced then

@irish smh this is not a laughing situation obviously abuse can start at any point of the relationship it just depends of how some people put up with it you dint have to be a dick. I thought everybody is on this app to uplift each other not criticize somebody else problems

you dont need your spouse to remove conditions. File for a divorce and make sure you state the reasons for the divorce to reflect your current situation. Unless it is pertinent to your safety, you shouldn't file a divorce just yet and try to work things out. However, either way since you already have your 2 years green card, you are good to file on your own 3 months before it expires but file a waiver. UScis will not force you to stay in an unhealthy marriage just bcos you need to remove conditions on your 2 year green card.

You do not need vawa anymore. You are already a resident just need to remove the condition on your card after 2 years to get your permanent 10 years green card.

consult a lawyer to get a clearer understanding. Enjoy your 2 year green card and if your spouse is threatening a divorce let them go ahead, you can file on your own 90days before this one expires, sometimes in July 2023.

You can file for VAWA now. Attorney Jen Hanna seems very experienced. I took a free consultancy from her. She was someone's lawyer in this app, and that person's VAWA approved quickly. Reach out to attorney Jen Hanna for free consultancyhttps://www.eastbridgelaw.com/attorneys/jen-hanna/

In the meantime, make sure you document everything (keep a journal, police reports, messages etc) and make sure this process is confidential.

@Irish att Hey, keep your trash opinion to yourself. You cannot know someone else's story! The person did not ask for your poor opinion, they asked for information. So shut up.

@irish it’s not funny to be sarcastic to situations like this. so many men and women immigrants go through a lot of abuse in their marriages from their spouse ranging from physical, emotional to mental or even sexual abuse. 8 out of 10 of these marriages were entered in good faith. petitioner spouse starts to abuse you knowing you are at their mercy. and you the beneficiary spouse is forced to stay because your immigration paperwork has been filed and you’re confused on what to do in such event. I’m a living example of physical emotional and mental torture. your spouse preys on you knowing you have no family in the country to run to. you’re wondering if it was the same man or woman who professed all that love to you at the beginning lol! funny right! but bitter truth sh**happens. nobody really wants to be jumping from one marriage to another but when your life is on the line my two cents is to leave because a dead man/woman cannot seek Greencard!!!

do not file vawa, it’s a waste of time and funds. you already got ur green card(2yrs) so divorce ur spouse and file for removal of condition in 2 years without him

if u young join the army get your citizenship

I agree with everyone. VAWA is a lengthy, mentally exhausting, and financially draining process. Since you have a 2 year green card, you might have better options to get your 10 year green card. Consult with a lawyer. Many lawyers provide free consultancy. Joining the army is a great advice, too.

I was just about to say that if your young no older than 35 join the National Guard

get your citizenship in 5 months or less, i know alot a people who do it

yes

thank you everyone, I love this man and I’m grateful to him for what he’s done for me but the yelling is too much . he just told me I can’t visit my aunt ( only family I have in America) if he’s not goin with me . yesterday he was sooo furious I gave a family friend a goodbye hug . this is becoming too much

some of you are dumbasses and crazy.. y'all know some people take advantage of the Citizens. it's not always about the immigrant being a victim. most victims are Citizens. both side are committing suicide and dying out there because of this situations.. so dont come at me foolishly. I'm not judging her or trying to create hate. I just asked a question. let be neutral on things here. when someone ask a question that hit the nail on the head he/she is considered a hater or evil. what a world we live in now

@irish again chill😂😂😂, this is not personal

I am sorry that you are going through this. That does not seem like a healthy behavior. Get knowledgeable about your immigration situation, gather information, talk with a few lawyers. Make sure everything is confidential.

@irish Get what your saying but that wasnt a neutral question, your basically asking why as she got her greencard there is now abuse in the marriage. The question was irrelevant

@Irish att Hey, mind your own business! If you do not have VAWA advice, just shut up.

@Irish att The person does not ask you if you believe her. Nobody cares about what you believe. So stop being annoying.

he has changed! I suggested counseling or therapy for us but he said he will never go for counseling

@ renzo she said the abuse is happening now? did you read her status?

@irish yes but you ask all of sudden it’s happening now when she has her green card. your question basically stating she is the issue because she had a greencard now

and you confirm that by stating not only immigrants getting abused US citizen also, your comment wasn’t necessary because its not helping her situation or giving any advice

@Renzo I'm still asking you did you read her status again? she said she recieved her green card 3months ago? so what is wrong about my question. maybe she needs to adjust the statements she made.

@Irish att You do not seem to have any experience in abuse, and you do not seem to understand or relate with the topic abuse. So before you judge people with your questions, and think that people are stupid, make sure you have knowledge or experience in this area.

I made that statement because of the way you guys came at me. so get it right

@Irish You were the first person who commented her question.

@ M Z I never wanted to reply your emotional stupidity.. but you just made me. I know alot more than you do and I know people who die out of this situations. so sit your dumb ass somewhere and chill. I can even help her more than you dumb dumb

@Maame K. Please don't let this thread upset you. I know it is already hard. Please Just make sure you are safe. There are many domestic abuse shelters or counseling options. Make sure you reach out to the hotline if you do not feel safe. Take good care!

@Irish it is not easy to ask for help during abuse and noone should be discouraged from asking for help. Asking questions about your situation and asking for help is brave. That's all.

yes I called the domestic abuse hotline and they said I should find somewhere safe . we’ve had a family who knows our situation talk to us but this man believes he is the head of the house and I don’t have to question what he says or tells me to do . he is telling me to avoid someone because he made an innocent comment about my short hair . he doesn’t like it when I speak my language with my people . it’s a whole lot of things going on . I’m starting therapy next week because it’s messing with my mind

@Maame K. since he doesn't wanna participate in both counseling and therapy. just gather as much evidence as you can right now and look for a good Attorney and discuss everything with he/she then take it from there.. most importantly pray about everything cos situations like this can escalate real quick. all the best and stay safe.

let the petitioner file for divorce. maame k, try as much to get more evidence. 🇬🇭

@Maame K He seems to be very controlling. You are taking great steps for yourself, good for you!

@Maame K It is good that you are starting therapy. In the meantime, you can educate and support yourself. Research narcisstic abuse. Try not to respond his controlling or argumentative statements, try to stay calm. You have your GC, you can work, too. You have great options, you have a nice and peaceful life ahead of you. Take good care!