The only thing I can offer is support, we are all in this together and have to help each other through. I’m waiting for my approval too, been actively reviewing since November 17th 2021. I also check this app several times a day, it’s hard not to. I actually find being on the app helpful as others understand what we are going through. This is a temporary situation and our time will come very soon.

I’m shocked it takes this long for a U.S citizen to file for a spouse. they have no way to reach them besides email either. getting pass the automated system is like fighting Mike Tyson in punch out video game

@Andy you need to stay off and not check this everyday only going to make you feel worse. It’s hard and we are all in the same situation but life also goes on. You will only make yourself sick

That’s true. Try not to let’s things out of your control get to you. In the meantime just try to visit and speak with your partner often as possible until this is resolved

@emmyA thanks so much one day at a time I guess

@FedUp it’s totally ridiculous

@VM I agree with getting off the app

yeah, don’t worry. the universe always align

Always surround yourself with people who have the same mission as yours. This platform has great, nice and excellent people who help manage the depression and anxiety. Thanks guys Staying out of this app will sure help but it’s not that easy. it’s like telling someone who is already angry, to not be angry. it’s haaaard!! . You want to stop opening this app but human emotions keep drawing you and bringing you back 😀; however, like someone said “this is only temporary” . Excellent Emotional and psychological management are the greatest achievement for this process, not even the approval . We will come out stronger and well prepared for the challenge ahead ( Hence, the reason immigrants mostly succeed here😊) May God see us all through 🙏🏾

I used to do that too but not anymore.. I kept myself bz. more you use this app more u will be disappointed.. just pray.. I know it's hard. theres nothing else we could do at this moment...

Try not to get on the app so much. Limit yourself to once a week and do something different in place of checking the app all day. You are going to depress yourself more and more the more you check. You have to walk away from it and have faith. Most approvals I’m seeing are taking close to a year not including those lucky ones only waiting for 4 months. My wait was 13 months before approval. I got off the app for a while to not stress myself on a daily

you need to stop checking and forget that you are waiting on something.. do some thing productive. i applied for I-29F in June 2021 and still nothing.. I don’t even look at the months anymore.. waste of time.. when it happens it will happen. good luck

I'm USA cizitizen I married to my husband outside the country I filed my 130 September 17 2021, active review sence September 28th nothing yet Potomac service center 🙏🙏

@ lisete Fernandes you and I have super similar cases. Sept 30 at potomac and nothing yet. my husband is also out of the country.

I used to not check the app because I accepted I would be waiting around a year. now that I’m at 11 months of waiting my anxiety is getting bad and I’m checking regularly but I noticed this just reinforces my negative mindset (because there’s been zero activity for months). easier said than done, but just try to take it day by day. I share your pain. it feels like an endless wait but it’ll be over relatively soon.

@lisete and @val val, I’m also an early 09/21 filer stuck in Potomac with a spouse living abroad. wishing us the best of luck.