Don't worry. Just keep collecting everything that you can. Don't ask for divorce, wait for him to ask. Also, if he call the uscis to say you married for GC he gonna be in big trouble either.

If he is being very controlling you should apply for VAWA

if you have a conditional GC you sure should get a lawyer you can get a waiver for your permanent GC

he always had anger problems, he’s been always very controlling but I thought we could work through it . this is his third marriage . I offered counseling but he said he will never go for counseling. I can’t talk to male friends from church/school . I can’t attend events without him be cause he says there will be dudes there

@ZR who is judging??

Maame. As I told you. Keep all email, mail, video, audio, everything that you can. When you go to remove your conditional you can use this to help you out. But I suggest you talk to a lawyer about.

I understand everything you’ve said. Along with the evidence stated above, you should also go to counseling to get the abuse documented. Good luck to you.

Just keep collecting proof. He will have no case in court. Aslong as you didn’t do anything major to him to prove that you in fact married him for a green card

I am so sorry that you are going through this , I highly recommend you to gather as much evidence as possible of his abuse and try to save in cloud storage than phone in case if he brraks your phone or deletes data. Sister I pray for you InshAllah everything will be alright my prayers are with you.

thank you guys

Maame K - I'm sorry to hear that. all I can say is not to worry. the guy thinks he can control you with threats but he won't call USCIS because guess what? if he does, he'll be in trouble too. a fraudulent marriage as he says you committed for papers means deportation for the alien party and emprisonment for the US citizen. do you think he wants to go to jail/prison? I don't think so. that's just another controlling move. document everything, build a case for yourself. also, get an immigration lawyer because you might not win this by yourself. good luck! 🙂

noe ramizez is right.

he has his own imperfections but I knew we could work through it . and I knew there was nobody perfect so …. he changed so much . he got better but lately everything sets him off . that’s just what is happening. he said the only way the marriage Will work is if I always listen to him and never questions him because he knows what’s best for me/us

@Maame K most of all please keep yourself safe . good luck I hope everything works out for you .

for the videos, I would recommend for you to save one more copy of that or share it to your very close and trusted family (i.e. your parents, etc) who does not live in the same house as yours. just in case he sees your recording and delete it, you have a back-up copy of those which are very important

more copies of those videos saved remotely will be helpful for you. i pray for you, immigration is already a pain and to go through with this abuse is just too much. please know you don’t need to keep up with an abusive partner and relationship. your worth is much more than that

nothing will happen. u already have a green card. I know someone that got divorced shortly after the gc, she did not marry for the gc but things happen. she's now a citizen and got her 10 year gc after the 2 year one.

you can get a U visa if you suffered domestic violence (hence keep the videos). this will allow you to stay here! stay strong! im sorry this is happening to you! ill pray for you

sorry my Ghanaian Fante sister…. Nyame tse ase ai 🙏🏾 stay strong, pray, be wise and conquer this mountain. sending you hugs 🤗

be strong if you know you marry him for love then prove it mean I’m in the same situation I gave this guy a green card and I had recording something told me something wasn’t right with him so I started recording him and if I didn’t I would’ve never known he really married me for a green card three or four months after he got his two-year green card he packed up his bag he left he changed his address he change his bank address so he doesn’t get statements at my place he got a new phone and got a new number he send money to Western Union he got a job started acting different basically all the evidence are in front of me I just don’t know what to do myself it’s a similar situation you’re going through is actually the opposite but I don’t know what else to do for myself for you you love him and you could try to prove it and you prove it I’m sorry this never happened to me I’m short to you I don’t know what else to do.

sfv sfv - I'm sorry you went through that. what you can do is report the person to USCIS. if you have proof that you were genuinely married but lied to just so they'd get their paperwork through you, they're the one who committed an illegal act. green cards and even the US citizenship can be revoked at any time if it was proven that they were obtained frodulently. USCIS is tracking down on fraudulent green cards and citizenship applications, and people like that are the reason why USCIS is tightening the rules even more everytime, making it more difficult for the rest of us doing things legally. it's your call. and if you want to go that road, then you might discuss with a lawyer first for better advice.