Klara Z
May 28, 2024
Age Gap/Interview
Hello everyone,
I hope you are all well and healthy!
I am the petitioner, and I married my husband during his vacation visit to his family. We have known each other for about seven years and have visited each other multiple times. Our connection grew stronger as we were both caregivers for our sick parents. When he was about to return home, I stopped him from going to the airport, and we got married instead. Unfortunately, our small wedding was canceled due to the rise in COVID cases, and we decided to save the money for a vacation once he gets his green card.
Nine months after our marriage, I obtained an attorney and filed his paperwork. He received his advanced parole, EAD card, social security, and ID. We live together, and despite a 23-year age gap (I, the wife, am older), we share the same religion, culture, beliefs, and language. My previous marriage ended in divorce due to infidelity and abuse. My husband and I share many interests, get along well, and enjoy our daily activities together. We are very attached, and he only leaves my sight when he goes somewhere with my brothers.
We have integrated our lives significantly, sharing three joint bank accounts, utility bills, life insurance, health insurance, car insurance, and house insurance. We go to the same family doctor, have pictures together, share a phone plan, and have met each other’s families. He spends more time with my family than I do.
The only Request for Evidence (RFE) we received was for a sponsor and medical since I am retired. I had previously sued my employer and received a large settlement, which I transferred to my offshore account. We submitted the requested information, and a year later, we received an interview date for the I-130 and I-485. This is our first interview.
Age is just a number to us, and we don't see the 23-year difference as significant. I never wanted to be alone, and my husband truly cares for and loves me. We are very close, and my family supports our marriage. However, we are aware that USCIS might raise concerns due to the age gap, which makes us nervous. We've been living together for three years and know everything about each other, but we both have general anxiety and take medication, which makes the interview letter anxiety-inducing. I've heard scary stories about these interviews and am worried they might try to trick us, even though our marriage is genuine.
I’m reaching out to see if anyone has been in a similar situation (with an older female and younger male) and what to expect during the first interview. We have an excellent (yet costly) attorney who will be present at the interview.
We believe we have sufficient documents and proof of our relationship. We know everything about each other and would appreciate any advice or support.
Thank you!
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Lindsey MillerMay 28, 2024
Wishing you nothing but the best. I’m sure someone on here has a similar story and could provide some advice or support! Fellow Lawfully members help out another member. :)
w s 🇨🇦🇺🇸May 28, 2024
i think they’ll most likely look to your spouse for suspicion. as long as he’s genuine I’m sure you have nothing to worry about. I’d probably make sure he has a good answer to wanting kids or the plan on that… since that’s the one thing an older woman usually can’t give a young man. best of luck to you!!! @Klara Z
A JohnsonMay 28, 2024
I don't have an answer to that, but you sound genuine to me. You have been together for many years and have shared family-related responsibilities, which shouldn't raise any major concerns. Wish you all the best.
Lady BirdMay 28, 2024
I agree with you@w s, so @Klara Z tell your husband to prepare the questions.
Lala zMay 28, 2024
am still pending, but i dont think 23 years difference is a problem ( my husband is 22 years older than me ) , just be positive knowing you love each other
Klara ZMay 28, 2024
@Lady Bird @w s I asked him multiple times over the years and he has assured me he doesn’t want kids. He said kids were never in the plan for him. He was very transparent that he did not want kids before anything got ever serious.
Lady BirdMay 28, 2024
Okay,
Klara ZMay 28, 2024
@Lala z In my case, as the female I am older and the us citizen I think they are more strict on older female petitioners
Lala zMay 28, 2024
@Klara Z well about kids , maybe they gonna ask about that, just be prepared.
nobody knows how they work
Favor meMay 28, 2024
@Klara Z type “age gap” in the search column on the upper left side of this app. You will find some cases similar to yours and find answers that you need. Good luck.
Muna ChimMay 28, 2024
My husband is 13years older than me . He is the petitioner. During our interview we were saperated . The interviewing officer asked me if I wasn’t concerned about the age gap and my response was no. I kept most my answers simple. It wasn’t a problem.
As long as you are both genuine with each other , sounds like you are , No one can tell you who you can fall in love with.
Rocco FortéMay 28, 2024
@Klara Z Thank you for outlining your case in a very smooth way. it was beautiful to read. secondly, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. We have seen cases with a 47 year age gap get approved without a problem. By the way you write, I can see you are a very detailed person, so apply that to your marriage evidence documentation your case will be approved.
Patricia Bell-Eastman May 28, 2024
@Klara Z you will be approved in Jesus name my husband is 23 yrs older than me and I got approved he was the petition though and we never had any interview 🗣️🙏❤️😇
lulu 369May 29, 2024
did they ask u all that ? my interview is in 3 weeks @Sandra Deriphonse
lulu 369May 29, 2024
thanks a lot ❤️i really appreciate it .
did u get ur green card ?
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mays veriownJun 6, 2024
Hii
I went offline.. just came back a saw this I show someone with same age gap or bigger than your but yet her case has been approved.. she’s passed her interview and she’s with her husband now .. but she’s a Nigerian and her man is a an American mam … in their case the man is rather older so I don’t think it should be a problem it’s just a matter of time
