if you have a greencard then just leave, no point killing yourself mentally for him, next time he threatens you about divorce throw him the papers.

what papers should I throw him

divorce papers. if you aren’t happy and have your conditions removed on your greencard already then just leave and start over in the US

imagine, he's forcing that the only thing he can do is to pay a plane ticket to go back to my country I can't my country economy is bad i left my job to come here for him sold my staff but he's treating me bad yet he says things like you better get away from me because I can do something bad imagine he said this today now when am trying to connfront and talk things out I recccorded the whole convo , he's against finding an apartment for me I told him I have the right don't force me to go back to my country you are responsible for me give me money to start over

yes I have been given a 10 year green card just this month thankfully

he's threatening to sell his house and leave saying am making his life miserable turning around all his behaviors on me making me confused very narcissistic

Sending you so much love and hugs. I would advice you to file for divorce. Get a job and look for a startup place to live. He will keep on draining you and abusing you. Get out of there! Get a good lawyer too.

@God is able my prayers are with u.

@God is able my prayers for you . please stay strong and don’t let other people mistreat you

thanks guys! are there unions I can report? because he has caused emotional and mental damage to me and I told him I need money to start my life , both our names are on the house but I don't want to fight for that house or anything

Do you work ? Get out before it gets worst .

You didn’t me having a job..do you have one? get a job and start saving and then leave and get yourself an apartment. you have 10 years, there’s nothing that can be filed except divorce. You can walk or fight for half which will cripple you in attorney fees.

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I did have a job but got fired am about to start a new job we live in small towns where it's mostly white and more racism even in work places and I want to move to big city as well because I have faced a lot as black lady in the work places, I think small towns are ridiculous people are backward minded I want to move to Grandrapids Atleast it's more diverse than where I live . so am saving money am excited for my new job but part f me just want to leave so bad in this city and run for my life the abuse is insane, I have recordings of course of him saying all crap. I just want him to pay for the damage he has caused on me emotionally and mentally I need money to start all over

the money I have in my account it's not enough to start all over but he's pushing that I go to my country, like and do what in my country? I developed axierty disorder because of him he's done so much damage

your husband could be a narcissist, a bad guy and a problem but then you could be the narcissist, the bad guy and the problem, it’s difficult to be able to make a verdict from one side of the story but from your post, if you’re still able and willing to ask him for money to start a new living then maybe he isn’t such a bad guy after all, most women in bad relationships and with a terrible husband don’t get that kind of privilege. unlike every other person giving you advise on how to record your husband, call the police and all that, I like to be a little more open minded and not rush to a verdict. my dear sister, he doesn’t owe you money to start your life, he doesn’t owe you anything, he’s been gracious to give you a green card, a house and a roof over your head, that’s more than most people get from their spouse. now that you have a green card , if your relationship can be savaged, I’ll say work thing out, the grass is greener where you water it and not on the other side. again, am not saying you’re the problem or anything like that, I don’t know you enough to arrive at that conclusion, but then people here in the comment section don’t know your husband well enough and it sucks how they have so much to say about him.

I did ask for money but he said he can't give me he can't waste money for paying apartment for me, he is responsible for me regardless marriage ends he brought me here . he's a narssist I have all the evidence all recordings from last year when am sick he does not care about my life there so much Unbilivable things he's doing to me he always ruin trips , never move on from past issues always bringing past well av had enough of being cursed F words and shouted at like a child I have all recordings that he has no idea I record him

Hey. everyone here is guiding you in the right direction. Whenever you feel threatened call the police. Don’t be afraid. There many places you can go when you are being abused. Even the police can guide you in the right direction. God bless you.

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@God is able i definitely feel what you going through right now, you not the only one. as far as advice i can’t give any because my education tells me not do put my mouth of advice in someone Mariage. do what you feel best for your mental and health