foreign gal
Sep 11, 2022
HELP PLEASE …… Future Divorce
hello can someone please help me, I’m currently in a unfortunate toxic marriage and wanting to leave .
I’ve been trying to stick it out with my husband and simply waiting until I get my ten year green card which I filed since last year June 10,2021 it’s now September 11,2022 I’ve gotten no interview and also wasn’t called in for biometrics; they sent me a later earlier this year stating that they will simply re use my biometrics from the first time I had gotten my previous green card.
our apartment least is up next year March and I refuse to sign another year lease with him and stay in the marriage. I’m mentally drained, mentally abused and even physically abused though he’s put hands on me twice it’s still abuse. the first time he said he’d never do it again but that was a lie …
can I file for citizenship without him..? I mean at first when we got together everything was fine but years later he and I just couldn’t get along. we still live together and Im just pretending like I’m a happy wife, we haven’t had sex in three years, we have been on and off sleeping in the same bedroom. currently not sleeping in the same bedroom he’s on the couch and I’m in the bedroom alone. we meet when he was 41 he’s currently 51…
I’ve caught him talking to other females and hiding the messages, one time he and this female that he works with had a chat just tarnishing my name said to her that he doesn’t think I’m happy, we’re toxic and that he’s only with me because I have a car. he’s 51 and never once bought a car of his own … since I’ve moved to America in 2017 I have owned two cars that I purchased on my own, I’m not big on smokers and I just found out this year he’s been hiding smoking behind my back for three plus years.. and told his friend not to ever tell me. I only found out because in went to pick him up from work and saw him standing outside lighting one.
I basically just want to leave but afraid it will mess up me waiting for my green card. I got a email stating that within 60 (now until October 15) I should get a update or further info on my case. but I’m to the point where I can’t take being here with him anymore,
my goal is that if I don’t hear anything from USCIS that to file for waiver or cizitzenship January and simply find somewhere else to live. I have even sent in something last week to my congressman to see if I can get help
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j bSep 11, 2022
i’m so sorry your marriage is not working out the way you may have hoped and for the additional stress that USCIS bestows on us all. I don’t know the answer but really wish you the best 💛💛
Ola OlaSep 11, 2022
@foreing gal. I’m in the same situation but I Iive separately from my spouse in a different state entirely and we aren’t divorced yet. I filed a waiver with my i751 pending and before that I filed for citizenship in February 2022. I hire a lawyer and I didn’t psychological evaluations that’s because i mainly didn’t have any even of physical abuse. Before he starts hitting he makes sure to break my phones and any other gadgets I could use to call the cops or record. So I would advice you stay away. if you can do the i751 waiver yourself go ahead and file n400 but if you think you’ll need a lawyer it’s better to find one that knows what they are doing. I wish you all the best.
foreign galSep 11, 2022
@Ola Ola …. I currently have a lawyer that helped me filed for the i751 like I said which is still pending but no update on my case.
should I still leave the case processing or do you suggest I file for citizenship seeing that we have been married since 2018 and been together since 2017 .? I’m just afraid it will fuck up my process
foreign galSep 11, 2022
I’ve also been recording our conversations and had a tracker on my car that I own and watch where he would go etc .. I also have screen shots of conversation he has had with other women and flirted etc .. he doesn’t know I have and did all of this as far as he knows he thinks I’m happy and working hard to keep this marriage going but I’ve mentally checked out I just want to leave asap
Rocco FortéSep 11, 2022
Hi @foreign gal, I am sorry for what you are going through. Yes you can get your 10 years greencard without him through the good faith marriage waiver. You need to be divorced and convert your existing case to a waiver before you can be approved. How long does divorce take in your state including separation?
foreign galSep 11, 2022
@Rocco it takes 6 months first then we can divorce . how should I got about this .. go 6 months first then change my case to waiver or what .. I’m sooo LOST and scared 🥹
Rocco FortéSep 11, 2022
Ok you need to get separated, file for divorce and get it finalized. Then write the service center handling your case to request they change your case to a divorce waiver. Attach a certified copy of your divorce decree and extra marital evidence up to the point of separation. Make sure you get a tracking number for the package for proof of delivery. Also keep copies of everything you sent. Which state do you live in?
foreign galSep 11, 2022
I live in Louisiana…
foreign galSep 11, 2022
so while I’m with him and when I leave for the six month just wait for my divorce certificate THEN let immigration know that we’re no longer together .?
foreign galSep 11, 2022
what if they ask for us both to come in for an interview .?
Hill TopSep 12, 2022
pls get a lawyer, visit hacking law firm
Rocco FortéSep 12, 2022
If you are in Louisiana then I think your service center should be TX. You cannot let USCIS know until you have your divorce decree in hand. if you do before your DD is ready, they will send you an RFE for it and in the event you do not sent it, that case will be denied. Timing is everything when switching your case to a divorce decree. If they invite you for an interview before your DD is ready, attend alone with a letter requesting to switch your case to a waiver and documentation showing you already filed for divorce.
foreign galSep 12, 2022
yes it is texas as my service center. ok so once I waited the six month and have my divorce certificate THEN let USCIS know .
what’s DD .?
Ola OlaSep 12, 2022
@rocco forte. her lawyer should be the one sending all those to USCIS since she hired a lawyer to filer her i751. I would say if the spouse isn’t pushing for divorce just separate from your spouse and let USCIS know you’ll be changing to a self petition and then you can send in all evidence of extreme cruelty to them and even the divorce decree if you have it. Cuz I believe you can have 2 reasons for changing to self petition.
Rocco FortéSep 12, 2022
DD means Divorce Decree. Yes it is best to have your Divorce Decree in hand then change to Divorce Waiver
Rocco FortéSep 12, 2022
@Ola you don’t wanna mess with the other waiver. it will open a can of worms you don’t wanna deal with. If your marriage has irretrievably failed then get divorced and change to Divorce waiver. This is definitely less messy that abuse waiver
foreign galSep 12, 2022
thank you Rocco
C CNov 8, 2022
look at vawa
