Am Otieno
Dec 3, 2023
decided to file VAWA
Fellow migrants, it has finally happened. I left my marriage after months of unending emotional abuse, and was recently taken in by an organization that supports survivors of domestic abuse.
I have been embarrassed to file my VAWA case, as everyone advices that I put up with the abuse from my wife. She has used her power as my petitioner to belittle my achievements and I put up with it because of love. Before the marriage, she was a very kind and loving person, but afterwards she flipped on me.
Now, after seeking therapy, it occurs that I was indeed in an abusive environment, and that explains a lot of how anxiety was my daily reality. I walked on eggshells for months. I can’t continue to tolerate abuse and disrespect: including physical assault, emotional abuse, financial abuse, and psychological distress. eventually I have been living on the streets of NYC homeless and without anything to my name (my wife there my stuff away saying I was a poor man). sadly I was out of work because of the application and before that I was a grad school student for 3 years.
About a month ago, I finally got my EAD. but I have been depressed and without a way to properly apply for jobs. I felt my wife unleashed cruelty towards me, including having affairs and saying that I can’t take her out to fancy places like the other men do. Again I was waiting for my work permit for months and I was depressed about it myself.
Now I made a decision to self petition and can’t afford a lawyer. Do you all think I got a chance if I file alone? I am male in his early 30s. I can’t afford to leave the US and begin a fresh that’s why I want to fight for justice.
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ayoade kayDec 3, 2023
sorry about your case, did she withdrew your application?
Now that u have EAD, file but get a lawyer. Don’t think about the money you can make payment plans.
I can't wait to see if the green card is really greenDec 3, 2023
Do it alone
Send as much proof can find
Don't forget
Psyc evaluation .the wone who prescribed meds
That will help you and your case
Good luck
Some people are just too evil
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Good luck
Am OtienoDec 3, 2023
@ayoade kay not yet. but she had threatened to do so. And also if I ask for documents we share like tax returns, she refuses to cooperate
Am OtienoDec 3, 2023
@My time will come In the Jesus name Amen thanks. all I have is the evaluation by my therapist. and a few other affidavit from friends. Safly I never documented most things, because I was always convinced that it is a hormonal change
Am OtienoDec 3, 2023
@ayoade kay you seem to have similar experience. Let me know if we can connect and share wisdom.
Alina liDec 3, 2023
There are always ways to get documents, specially tax return if your name is in there as a joint returns! and they are a lot of organizations that help you to the process without paying a penny! you don’t even have to pay Immigration’s fee for this type of case! so go ahead and just google organization that help with vawa in nyc, you will find a lot of them, they will guide and help you truth the process! @Am Otieno
Am OtienoDec 3, 2023
@Alina li thank you
B TDec 3, 2023
@ayoade kay please are you in ny or nj?
franny zeeDec 4, 2023
go ahead and file quickly, dont think too much about it. its not good for your health to stay in an abusive situation. so dont waste time. you can have your marriage and vawa cases going on at the same time. And with vawa you are free from external stress. contact wafula law, chidolue law firm, olaleye law firm or tamika jude. these firms are good with vawa.
Am OtienoDec 4, 2023
@Eob See thank you
Am OtienoDec 4, 2023
Quick update: I reached out to ActionNY, an organization that supports migrants, and they took my case. waiting to hear from them. I’ll keep you all posted.
Empress HDec 6, 2023
@Am Otieno what is there fee?
Am OtienoDec 6, 2023
@Empress H they are pro bono. Free.
Empress HDec 7, 2023
@Am Otieno thank you
